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PostPosted: Thu Nov 18, 2010 2:35 pm 
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I'm reading this book by Anne Lamott - who is a recovering addict/alcoholic - and in it she shares these "five rules for being a person in America" that Father Tom Weston talks about, and I thought I'd post them here. So here they are:

Rule #1: You must not have anything different about you or wrong with you.

Rule #2: If you do have something different about you or wrong with you, you should correct it or get over it as soon as possible.

Rule #3: If you can't correct it or get over it, you should pretend that you have.

Rule #4: If you can't even pretend to have gotten over it, then stay home.

Rule #5: If you are going to insist on showing up, you should at least have the decency to be ashamed.

Lamott then goes on to say that sometimes the most radical, most revolutionary thing we can do then is to show up for our lives and not feel ashamed.

When I read this little passage of the book, it really struck a chord with me. I have lived by these rules, and I have also tried to live in a way that breaks these rules. I've been trying lately to "show up" for my life more often, imperfections and all. It's not always easy, but it's always worth it.

What do you guys think?

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Rule #3: If you can't correct it or get over it, you should pretend that you have

Thats like lying and be a fake to yourself and everyone you know and love around you. It does not make any sense to me correct me if i'm wrong.


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My take on it was that we're supposed to break ALL those rules.


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No, all this is saying is that this is how America wants you to be. If something is wrong with you, addiction for example, America expects you to either fix it and act like it never existed or hide it, and if you cant hide it, then stay at home. However, you shouldnt be ashamed of it and hide or do any of these things. Be proud of who you are and if something is wrong with you, dont be ashamed. The book is just "stating" that America expects you to do as these rules are, but that you shouldnt. Hard for me to explain it but its plain and simple from what it says.


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I think stating "America says....." about anything is an over-generalization of the same ilk as "doctors are only in it for the money"!


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Yeah, "break all those rules" was not the right choice of words.

Like DOAQ quoted Lamott, we should show up for our lives and we shouldn't be ashamed.


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I think this is true for the most part and I don't think it is over generalized at all. This is our culture. It goes right along with our cultural value of independence and capitalism. I think breaking these rules can cause a lot of problems however because going against the cultural grain of any society causes you problems. Maybe she should have added "break the rules quietly....at home.....and only with very close friends who won't use it against you".

Just my opinion.

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Yes i see your point.


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