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PostPosted: Wed Nov 23, 2011 8:29 pm 
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Thanksgiving used to be my most favorite holiday. I loved it because it was just about spending time with people I loved and eating good food.

I especially loved Thanksgiving when I moved away from home. I was young (early 20s), many of my friends were cooks, we all partied hard and made a feast and celebration for all of the "orphans" who were far from home. This was one of the ways that I learned about the family that you create and the traditions that you create that nourish the soul of that family.

Nowadays, I am an old sorta-married lady, with a kid and in-laws. I live far from my family of origin, and it seems like every year Thanksgiving gets eaten up by demands from my sorta-husband's family. We tried to break free at one point, but it just didn't work. It's a long story and not particularly interesting...but you know how families can be. One relative "claims" a holiday and if you ever try to shift that holiday to somewhere else...forget it.

As much as I try to just let go and go with the flow, and appreciate that I have food and a warm place to eat, and relatives who care and want us around...I get irritated. I try, I really do, but I'd just rather NOT drive 2 or 3 hours to eat food that I don't particularly like with a bunch of people that I only sorta get along with because I just don't assert my actual personality too much when I'm around them. And then drive 2 or 3 (depends on traffic) hours home with grumpy, over-fed, over-tired family praying that this year won't be the one that my MIL rear-ends someone on the freeway. She's a bad tailgater.

So today I am chilling out, trying to get in a good headspace for tomorrow's games. This year, I have the added stress of new dietary restrictions (I am gluten and lactose intolerant, I have recently learned). I would almost rather just skip the whole fucking thing. And MIL wants us to drive up TONIGHT and stay over. No thanks.

Look, I know these are First World Problems. I know I just need to adjust my attitude, feel some gratitude, chill the fuck out and have fun with my daughter and partner. I'm just struggling with it for some reason today and thought I would come here and vent a little and see if anyone else is in the same boat.

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ten minuts ago I started bitchen a little too in the methadone room LOL

I can't fucking stand Thankgiving but I started thinking...screw it- I am thankful I'm not dope sick and I'll be able to get outa bed. I'm craving bad right now, too.

My whole family is pretty much depressed this year. A company partnered with ours and fired every damn one of us- all high paying jobs- weird isn't even the word. Most of my family members are scotch drunks LOL (functioning, sorta) Another family member had surgery at the start of the year; he now knows what it's like to be an oxy addict and got to experience his first wds haha

He called me sick, asking for advice because he knew I had experience. First, I told him Docs don't like it when you call leaving a message saying, " I took a few extra 40s and im 20 days short, call in another script PRONTO!" LOL...he didn't know. call in OCs LOL, anyway, it's family- hope everyone has a good one! ~indigo


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DoaQ, do you now see that if you had married me, like I asked you to 1000 times, you would be partying with me and my awesome family this Thanksgiving!!! :lol:

Yeah, truth is my whole family is in Canada and my wife and I don't make the 10 hour drive back there for Thanksgiving for 2 reasons. #1----the 10 hour drive!!! #2----Canadian Thanksgiving is in October!!

So, I'm left going to my inlaws for Thanksgiving and I generally detest it because most of them are B.O.R.I.N.G.

I'd rather watch paint dry, it's more exciting.

Plus, I get the added bonus of spending some quality time with a couple of her family members that are so anal retentive you'd need a tractor to pull a needle out of their butts. These two are of the type who have to be directing and controlling every single detail, every single moment and that drives me bananas. Always pestering, always hovering, always TALKING.....my gosh, they don't shut up!!

It's honestly got to the point where I just spend most of the time with the kids now. Sure, they want to paint my fingernails and see what kind of fruity ass bows they can put in my hair, but it's better than being with the adults.

I do have to say this, the food is always good, but then again, I'm not on a tree bark and Granola Bar diet!!! :lol:

I hope we all survive Thanksgiving and I hope we all can find the silver lining, if not, just endure the pain and be glad Thanksgiving only comes around once per year.

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I just got home from work (hospital RN) and I am loving this thread!

For thanksgiving Me, my husband, and three kids are going to my moms. She is having some of her friends over too. She makes great food but the problem is that every one there is a damn alcoholic. All these people, including mom, will be drunk as hell two hours into this dinner. And they drink red wine so their teeth and lips turn this fucking nasty red/grey color. It makes me sick! I find I have zero desire to drink while taking sub.

And out of this whole crew, who has ever been charged with a DUI? ME, for being on sub! I still cant fucking believe this. (I go fight this thing on Dec 5th)

Like Romeo, I tend to hang out with the kids and just try to be greatful.

I hope you all have a great thanksgiving!!!! Hang in there sub people!!!!!


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:lol: hahahahaha, right on! I hang with the kids too!! (i thought i was the only one), also- good free lunch with huge take home plate!


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Diary -

For the last 10 years my husband and I had to drive 3 hours each way to have all the major holidays with his family. So any holiday that I could get out of and spend just the two of us at home, I took full advantage. I completely understand where you are with this and the need to push ourselves to try to make the best of it. And as you know it is not easy. We know HOW to do it, in our heads, but that doesn't make it any easier, does it?

As for this Thanksgiving for my, well, my MIL is no longer with us, so we probably won't be spending any more holidays with his remaining sisters. They've never made an effort to come to us and we're done going over there? And now that I have "new" family (family that I never knew I had that I found 1.5 years ago during my family tree/genealogy research), I'm thrilled, fucking thrilled, to be spending this Thanksgiving with them. :mrgreen: In fact, this is the first major holiday that my husband and I will actually be spending with MY family. It's a pretty major change for us.

In the end, I'm actually pretty excited about this year's turkey day (which is a HUGE change for me and my normally grumpy ass). And I'll fight anyone there for the biggest piece of skin!

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I shouldn't, but here goes: we're going to my in-laws.....they're a family that essentially grew up in poverty, but most have become very successful and well off. Do you think they'd have some compassion and remember what is was like to be poor? Instead half of them are virulent right wingers, and to top it off they're a bunch of winos. They think they're above it all because they drink expensive wine - but drunk is drunk in my book. Oh, and they get in loud political debates - which of course we're always the opposition, being bleeding heart liberals and all. I could go on.....

The icing on top is that my mom (who is spending thanksgiving with her "boyfriend's" family), suddenly started feeling bad that our family isn't getting together, so a sort of 2nd Thanksgiving was planned for Friday, and guess who got roped into hosting it? The people who always come to the rescue of my horribly dysfunctional family, my husband and I.

I'll be hanging out with the kids too.
BTW - orange doll, that DUI is a load of shit, I'm sure you will beat it, but I can understand how pissed off you must be.


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We don't celebrate thanksgiving unfortunately. But I will definitely have a turkey sandwich, and dedicate it to all you folks enjoying & enduring the company of your loved ones.

Fresh white bread, lettuce, mayo, cheese, salt, bepper, pickle... and turkey. mmmm Lottsa turkey.



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i'm driving 1 1/2 hours to my family. Joyce/linda/walter/brent/billy/arnold/kevin/danny/ and offspring. no alcohol no drugs.
just a quick visit and i got the TURKY :lol:

HAPPY THANKS GIVING ALL ON THE FORUM


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A big Happy Thanksgiving to All, even if you're not going to have a good time. Just be grateful for the little things in life, like LIFE. My whole perspective changed this last month realizing I could be in the ground if not for decent medical care. Actually went through all my papers to make sure all my affairs were in order so my wife wouldn't have to sort through it all.

Still cannot eat anything but soft foods and we're not driving to see the family this year. Just my sister in law, my wife, and I are heading to Sam's Town. One of the closest casino's here in Las Vegas. They are having a nice spread so I can eat mashed potatoes, yams, soup, and anything soft including dessert. Yes, I am grateful for doing that. Then there's a laser light show at 6pm that is holiday themed so that'll be fun.

And I'm also grateful that most of my family are recovered alcoholics and no more maniac holidays like days past. All of us either quit or died from it. Most lived but we have lost several including my brother.

Eat Up!

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I love all of you so fucking much right now. It's so good to know I'm not the only one!

I am feeling a little more positive today and I think everything will be ok. I usually hang out with the kids too, though there aren't too many on my husband's side of the fam.

In any case, I hope you all have as wonderful a day as possible and I'll be thinking of you all when I think about what I'm thankful for today.

And Romeo, don't let them kids put any ass-bows in your hair. That sounds unhygenic.

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Ass-bows-----hahahaha!! Next time I'll have to remember to write "fruity dang bows" because ass-bows DOES sound pretty disgusting!! I just love you DoaQ, you crack me up!

Hey Rule, thanks for the reminder on how lucky we are. I think I speak for all of us when I say that we're glad you're not pushing up daisies!! You da man!! Oh Yeah, I'll be thinking of you when I'm eating my mashed taters. Stay strong Bud.

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I hope everyone's Thanksgiving turned out good....even those who don't particularly look forward to it. Rule's situation is a great reminder that as long as we're alive, we probably can find something to be thankful for.
I feel bad for those (and I know there are many) who don't enjoy spending time with their families. That must really suck.
It does make me quite thankful that I am blessed with a pretty great family. I hosted Thanksgiving this year, as I have for several years now and although there is a little bit of dread involved in terms of getting the house in order, decorating and setting a nice table, the grocery shopping and preparing for the meal, and of course, the cooking, I actually enjoy it quite a bit. I don't have a huge family either and I think that helps some. So yes, for the most part, I love the holiday! I get to have all three of my children home, my parents and my brother's family. We eat great food, spend the day together and enjoy each others company. There is no alcohol involved as we have always been an alcohol-free kind of family for the most part, so there's no drunkeness to complicate matters!! We just eat too much, gather around the tv and watch some football and half of us fall asleep at some point during the afternoon! Real exciting? No. Real comfortable and safe? Yes! And that's pretty good!
The other thing I'm truly grateful for this year is that I'm not anywhere between high on pills and out of pills and in withdrawal! Nor am I in the somewhat of a "fog" of high-dose buprenorphine that I was in for the past 2 Thanksgivings. I feel I'm fully experiencing this holiday with my family for the first time in about 7-8 years and that, to me, is great!


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thats nice to no setmefree'. well' here i am all ready to go to my fam- for turk. and for my full first good exp-
on subs. and now my brothers changed there mind on going so i stayed home and had some cake/cake/cake/cake!!!!!
and for some reason" i 'm feeling a little sick to my belly


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that nice looking turkey sandwich above' doe's any one no where i can find the MAYO? i had no turkey today.
and i'm still feeling sick from that fucking tasty cake. what a strange THANKSGIVING.


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