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PostPosted: Sun Jul 01, 2012 5:58 am 
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I have been on subutex for 2 years. I have had no problems with relapse, don't even think about all the drugs I used
to take, have no desire for them. I also have had no problems with the subutex other than constipation.
My behavior, however has not changed much. I have not seen a counselor because I saw so many before sub and they
never seemed to help me...a waste of $200.00 for an hour. I have not been to AA or NA, because I did that for twenty
years and that didn't help me either. I like to stay in the house and not get out much and that hasn't changed either.
In other words, I have not made much progress in changing my behavior. I am negative too much. I don't like
company or parties or even the grandkids coming over because it wears me out and I am ready for them to GO.

I heard a man say in AA one time that all we can expect in life is "reasonable happiness". I guess that is what I have.
But I feel like what I am really doing is living to take my subutex pill. I cannot expect to get off this medication unless
I change my behavior and for two years I have not done that. I just wondered if there are others out there like me?

If so, I would appreciate your thoughts on the subject.

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Slipper, do you have a particular behavior in mind you want to change? There are ways to change our own behavior. Usually we don't catch our behavior until we already do it. When we want to change it, it's a matter of 'catching' it earlier and earlier, until we finally start catching it while we're doing it and soon, we'll be able to stop it BEFORE it happens. Does that make sense? It's a matter of being aware of the behavior first and knowing what triggers it then being able to stop it.

It's much easier to discuss if we had an example behavior. But I thought I'd at least start out with telling you how I do it.

Is this the kind of thing you're looking for?

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It takes time to change ingrained behaviors. People expect things to change in weeks, or months. I'm more inclined to think it takes years.

But it's also important to accept and be comfortable with who you are. If you're not the kinda person that likes parties or socialising, then what's wrong with that? You're just one of the 50% of people in the world who aren't extroverted. In the place of partying you have your own enjoyments, things for you that are equally pleasing.

If you're wanting to change behavior so you can stay off Sub then it'd be best to focus on the behaviors that led to your using. This is a hard long process for me but things are improving and I'm learning more each time I stumble. One of the big things for me is when I become negative and fall into depression. The problem isn't the negativity, it's the fact I try and fight it because I don't like it and I don't want to feel it. And drugs have been my biggest weapon in that battle for so many years. But the problem wasn't the depression itself because, apart from taking my medications and leading a healthy lifestyle, when and if it comes is outta my control. So I'm trying to accept that I become like that and it's who I am, and come to peace with it even when I'm experiencing it. It's only when I can't accept it and I want to fight it that I turn to drugs.

Dunno if you can relate at all but I hope I helped somehow.


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Slipper...........
First I think you need to give yourself JUST a little bit of credit, becuz taking away drugs, in MY opinion, is a HUGE change, like the BIGGEST!!!!

and tear is right, not all of us, are "social butterflys" and THATS okay, too. In my opinion!!

Im not to 'into' the whole party/company/get together scene either. I sorta feel socially retarded most of the time.
Like, I have NOTHING in common with "normal" people. And I like to make jokes all the time, but NOT everyone thinks Im funny, and when they dont laugh, well, then I feel really stupid!!!

Have you thought about a hobby of somekind???
I mean is there ANYTHING you can think of that you 'always wanted to do' but never had the time/energy/$ ???

Im gonna buy a dirtbike/atv here soon, as soon as I get moved into my new place and settled. I know thats probly way off for you, but just think about ALL The things there is out there, Im sure theres gott be SOMETHING you'd enjoy???????????????

Just trying to help!!!
and two years with no relapse, is DEFINITELY something to be proud of, I hope you know that!!!!

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