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PostPosted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 6:19 am 
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Hey guys. All the stuff that's been happening at my end lately has got me thinking a bit, and I wanna get your thoughts on it if that's okay. I'm curious how important you think family, having kids, or a partner/husband/wife is to your recovery. Do they play a big role in helping you? Are they a big motivating factor for choosing to stop using? Do you think you could stay clean without them?


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TJ asked, "I'm curious how important you think family, having kids, or a partner/husband/wife is to your recovery." In my experience, having a wife and child is a huge part of my recovery. They help provide me with some of the accountability I need to stay clean. They also help to keep me on an even keel, which helps a lot. My wife is also one of my main support people. I know I can tell her what's going on without her overreacting and that's a big help.

As far as staying clean without them.....now that I'm further into my recovery, I'm sure I could, but early on it would have been very difficult to get and stay clean without them.

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Hey guys!!!

Sorry I haven't been around very much lately,,,, still working about 60 hours a week,, monday to saturday,,,,

TODAY is the FIRST saturday I've had off, since the first week of NOVEMBER!!!

Anyways,
I saw TJ's topic, and was like OOOOOOOO I got somethin' to add!!!
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So, I don't think HAVING a spouse and/or children is WHAT keeps me clean, or off the dope,
But I do think EVERY ONE OF US,

needs ONE PERSON, to keep us "in check"

someone close,,, that YOU can say,, "today's been a difficult day"
sometimes , just SHARING that, is enough, to say, I dont HAVE to use drugs today....

does that make sense???

for me,,, It was my grandmother, believe it or not, in the begining,,, I'd tell her EVERY DAY,,
man, i MISS getting high, but I did NOT today!!!

it was VERY good for me, to just hear her say, "GOOD JOB"
that's all, she wouldn't baby me or anything else, she'd just say, Good job, what are you gonna do
TOMOROW to STAY off drugs, too?>????

and that'd make me THINK,,,,,,, you know, about how I could avoid such bad cravings....

NOW,
well now yes, my spouse, child, family, boss, help me STAY outta the bag......
I really like my job, I have a ton of responsibility now, something I've never had before,,,
I've been there almost two years now,
the longest IVE EVER held a job,,,,
LOL

Anyways,,,,
I don't think you have to be married or have a family to STAY CLEAN.....
sometimes it's more difficult, with those "obstacles"

but like I said, I think EACH AND EVERY ONE OF US,,, needs SOMEONE to confide in,
share with, to keep us "in check"

AND,,,
thanks for the GREAT TOPIC TJ~~~~~~

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