Ashlee don't let anyone tell u that ur not 'sober'. It isn't their life to live and their judgments can take a long hike off a short cliff! I know it's hard to ignore those ppl, but it will get easier to let those negative words roll off ur bk. Those ppl don't see (or care to see) just what a change u have made in ur life. If someone wants to claim I'm not in recovery then I'd like to show them a flashback of myself shooting up in a church parking lot to what my life is like now....... that is something they don't see or think about. In the grand scheme of things, just because we take a medication every day is such a minor thing and no difference than needing something for blood pressure. Those judgements really irritate me but I have learned to not take it so personally any longer.
Forgiveness is HARD! It won't happen overnight either. I remember ppl telling me I had to forgive my ex husband for the lies he fed my daughter. He kept me from her for a good amount of time telling her that her mommy chose drugs over her. He refused to even let her see a picture of me. How could I have ever forgiven him? I'd always say that I wouldn't ever be able to. I still don't like him and I'll never be in a place that I'd be friends with him, but as far as letting it go in my heart.... I'm pretty close. I can't even say I'm 100% yet but I'm close. It just takes time and being open to it. It doesn't mean u think they're a good person, it's more for u
I sure hope that makes sense.